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Your guide to common teenage stressors
September 3, 2019 at 12:00 AM
by East Bay Relationship Center
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Teenagers face an incredible number of stressors. Although they may not be navigating the working world or paying a mortgage, they do find themselves tackling very grownup problems, without an adult's resilience. As teenagers lack control in their lives, they often feel powerless when these stressors appear. If you're considering counseling for teenagers, you may want to learn more about common stressors and their effects.

Social pressure

As you probably already know, teenagers move in tribes. At East Bay Relationship Center, we often find that the greatest challenges a teenager will face come from their own peers. Peer pressure can cause them to do things that are outside of their comfort zone. When those actions conflict with the morals they're taught at home, life soon becomes confusing. Other elements of social pressure may include bullying, maintaining friendships, and encountering their first romantic relationships.

When teenagers find themselves succumbing to peer pressure, they may feel as though they're pulled between two different roles. As a result, they become moody and irritable and they may take their aggression out on those they're close to. With teenage counseling, you can identify what types of peer pressure your teen is facing and help them build social resilience.

Family strains

Many people assume that family strains only arise when there's discord within their household. However, even when everything feels okay at home, your teen may be encountering stressors.

For example, if you're in conflict with members of your extended family, they're likely to notice. If they're close to that person, they'll feel torn between their loyalty to you as a parent and their desire to remain close to the extended family member. Strained sibling relationships and unrealistic expectations are also problematic. If your teen appears stressed, you may want to consider whether you're placing pressure on them to fulfill a particular role.

If your teen is struggling against family strains, they may be struggling with their identity. Using teenage counseling, you can help them establish their role in the family and feel confident in expressing themselves.

Significant changes

To many parents, the idea that a positive change could have a negative impact on their teen feels alien. However, job changes, new family members, and a change in social circumstances can all leave your teen feeling disorientated. As individuals who love to maintain their status quo, they're soon thrown off balance when something new happens.

When a big change occurs, your teen may feel uncertain about life and as though their home is lacking consistency. If they use teenage counseling as a tool for managing their reactions, they may begin to see significant changes as a positive experience rather than something to be upset about.

Traumatic events

Did you know that dating violence affects around 10% of teens? As a traumatic event that has the potential to cause PTSD in adults, dating violence can have a lasting effect on developing brains. Similarly, losing a close friend or family member, car accidents, and robberies can all affect a teen's wellbeing. Unlike adults, they don't always have the emotional intelligence required to reassure themselves that they're safe. As a result, teen counseling becomes necessary.

When your teen can talk about their trauma with someone who won't have a personal and emotional response, they'll find it easier to navigate their own feelings. Counselors act as ideal impartial individuals and they have the training required to help your teen manage their feelings.

At East Bay Relationship Center, we offer teen counseling in Alameda and the surrounding areas. If your teen is struggling with their emotions, contact us by calling 510 748 0640.